STREE SENSE ◉ JOURNAL

The things no one tells you in time.

Plain, honest writing on perimenopause. The early signs, the stages, what actually helps, and how to be heard by a doctor.

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JOURNAL 01

Tired, snapping, not sleeping, and every test comes back normal.

Exhausted in a way sleep does not reach, and the bloodwork keeps coming back fine. If you are in your late 30s or 40s, this is not in your head, and it is almost certainly not just stress.

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JOURNAL 02

Your doctor said it is just stress. Here is when to stop believing that.

You have raised this more than once and left each time with the same sentence. It is stress. It is your age. Your tests are normal. At some point the question changes: is anyone actually looking?

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JOURNAL 03

How long does perimenopause last, and what are the stages?

There is no start date on a calendar and no clear finish line. You only know something has shifted, and cannot tell whether you are at the beginning of it or most of the way through. Here is the shape of it.

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JOURNAL 04

What actually helps in perimenopause? The honest answer no one gives you.

Everyone has an answer and they all contradict each other. Cut the carbs, no, eat more of them. Here is the honest version, the one the lists tend to skip.

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JOURNAL 05

Hot, then cold, then hot again, half the night.

It starts at night for many of us, the blanket on, the blanket off, a small pointless war with the thermostat no one else is fighting. What a hot flash actually is, and why it can arrive long before 50.

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JOURNAL 06

There is something you can do. Most of us were never told.

The fear attached to hormone therapy belongs to a different decade. What it actually is, why one old study made it sound scarier than it was, and how to tell if it could help you.

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JOURNAL 07

The word for all of it is perimenopause.

For most of your life you have a word for everything your body does. Then, somewhere around 40, it starts doing things that match none of them. The word you are missing is perimenopause, and it is the part you are actually living through.

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JOURNAL 08

How to Find a Doctor Who Actually Knows Perimenopause

Your gynaecologist is not automatically a menopause expert. How to find a doctor in India who actually understands this stretch of life, and how to vet the one you already have.

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JOURNAL 09

Estrogen, Progesterone and Testosterone in Women, Explained

You do not have one hormone quietly running the show. You have three, estrogen, progesterone and testosterone, and perimenopause moves all of them. Here is what each one actually does.

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JOURNAL 10

What Is Estrogen, and What Does It Actually Do?

Estrogen does far more than run your periods, and in perimenopause it does not simply fall, it swings. What it does, why it goes haywire, and the myths worth dropping.

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JOURNAL 11

What Is Progesterone, and Why Does It Leave First?

Progesterone is the calm one, and in perimenopause it is usually the first to leave, often years before anything else. The anxiety and the broken sleep may not be stress at all.

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JOURNAL 12

Testosterone in Women: What It Does and Why It's Yours

Testosterone is every bit a woman's hormone. You have quietly made more of it than estrogen for most of your life, and when it fades the drive can go missing before you think to blame a hormone.

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STREE SENSE ◉ LETTERS

Letters from Stree Sense.

The things someone should have said at the time, written to you.

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LETTER 01

Why your sleep breaks before your period.

You blamed the coffee. The screen time. The fact that you had not wound down properly. You blamed yourself every single month.

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LETTER 02

Normal is not the same as right for you.

You believed it. You walked out of that clinic holding a piece of paper that said everything was fine. And you felt relieved for about an hour.

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LETTER 03

Most women hear the word perimenopause too late.

Perimenopause. You may have heard the word for the first time in your forties, already deep inside it. Most women hear it in their late forties, when they are already three quarters of the way through.

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